What is the effect of broken relationship

A miscarriage is an incredibly painful and emotional time for couples.

A report written by OnePlusOne, featuring interviews with couples who had gone through one or more miscarriages  revealed how different couples deal with the loss of their unborn child.

One participant in the study said that after two miscarriages, she and her partner experienced a lot of severe relationship difficulties.

‘When you go on the down side after a miscarriage, you just don’t want to know. Everybody is to blame and the person you are with gets it the worst.  I’d often go and sleep on my own, and make the excuse that our son was waking up at night. I think the only factor that kept us together at times was the fact that we had a son. We were both quite committed to him.’ 

Others feel like communication breaks down between the two of them, which can leave them feeling helpless at times: ‘You know there’s only so much asking you can do and if she’s not ready to talk then that’s it.’ 

However, it is more commonly reported that miscarriages can help a couple become closer.

Some participants in the OnePlusOne study described miscarriage as an experience in which they could both share and support one another equally. Couples also say a miscarriage is different to other issues such as the death of a parent, where one partner is being supported and the other provides support.

Following his partner’s miscarriage, one participant said that their relationship ‘had been made a lot stronger.